Eve Rodsky is working to change society one marriage at a time by coming up with a new 21st century solution to an age-old problem: women shouldering the brunt of childrearing and domestic life responsibilities regardless of whether they work outside the home.

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Yes, There Is Still A Motherhood Penalty

Hello Sunshine, June 2019

As the elevator climbed to the fifth-floor law offices, Alison let out an exhaustive yawn. Her managing partner, Jim, gave her a sympathetic smile. “Another sleepless night with the new baby? I remember those days. I bet you’re so tired.”

Eve Rodsky On How To Reclaim Your Time On Mother’s Day

Hello Sunshine, May 2019

POP QUIZ: Imagine your upcoming Mother’s Day brunch. You appear in a springtime sundress. You are handed a special menu and are served warm croissants as your adoring family raises a glass to sing your “Best Mom Ever” praises…

 

End the Plague of Secret Parenting

The Atlantic, May 2019

If mothers and fathers speak openly about child-care obligations, their colleagues will adapt.

Hollywood working moms and the brutal conflict between family and career

Los Angeles Times, May 2019

Meredith Blake writes about the difficulties of working women in the entertainment industry.

 

What ‘Good’ Dads Get Away With

The New York Times, May 2019

Division of labor in the home is one of the most important equity issues of our time. Yet at this rate it will be another 75 years before men do half the work.

Married Women Do More Housework Than Single Moms, Study Finds

Fortune, May 2019

Married women spend more time on housework than single moms, a new study finds.

 

Why American moms are seriously struggling

USA Today, May 2019

Analysis: Economic, cultural and technological changes have piled on new pressures for moms.

Women Did Everything Right. Then Work Got ‘Greedy.’

The New York Times, April 2019

How America’s obsession with long hours has widened the gender gap.

 

Melinda Gates On Marriage, Parenting And Why She Made Bill Drive The Kids To School

National Public Radio, April 2019

Melinda Gates, the co-founder of the Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation, has written a new book, The Moment of Lift: How Empowering Women Changes The World.

I Asked A Stranger About Emotional Labor—Here’s What He Said

Hello Sunshine, March 2019

“Imagine walking into your boss’s office each morning to ask, ‘What should I be doing today? I’ll just wait here until you tell me what to do.’”…

 

The Surprising Benefits of Relentlessly Auditing Your Life

Psychology Today, March 2019

We tend to think that good marriages and happy families are born of love and care, not spreadsheets. But what if that’s wrong?

Parenting and Household Tasks: How Dads Contribute

Edison Research, March 2019

Data from the Moms on the Mother Load study reveals that dads contribute to household and parenting tasks in a different way, and the divisions of labor are quite clear.

 

Women’s Work: Paying for childcare in China and India

The New Yorker, March 2019

Housework is a ubiquitous physical demand that has hamstrung and silenced women for most of human history. And yet, it is seldom considered as a serious subject for study.

Mothers Are Drowning in Stress: New research suggests saving U.S. mothers should be a national priority.

Psychology Today, March 2019

Mothers are caught between ideals of devotion to work and devotion to children; the best solutions demand a redefining of motherhood, work, and family.

 

Serena Williams on International Women’s Day: ‘We Must Band Together to Fight for What’s Fair'

Fortune, March 2019

In honor of International Women’s Day, Serena Williams writes a call to action for gender parity.

Your New Bicycle: Beto, childcare, and the cool

Momism, March 2019

Sady Doyle writes about gender politics in the 2020 United States presidential election.

 

Mom Writes An Honest Poem At 4 A.M. About Her Husband Who Sleeps Instead Of Helping With The Baby

Bored Panda, February 2019

New mom Caroline Olling Andersen found a brilliant way to deal with the life changes that come with your first baby: writing poetry.

Japan’s Working Mothers: Record Responsibilities, Little Help From Dads

New York Times, February 2019

Men in Japan do fewer hours of housework and child care than in any of the world’s richest nations, which keeps women from getting better jobs and holds back the economy.

 

Jeff Bezos says his advice to Amazon interns and execs is to stop aiming for work-life 'balance' — here's what you should strive for instead

Business Insider, January 2019

Bezos revealed that one of the top pieces of advice he offers new Amazon employees is that they shouldn't view the two as a strict trade-off.

Women’s invisible labor leaves them feeling empty, study finds

Mashable, January 2019

A study published in the journal Sex Roles illustrates the impact of invisible labor on women’s emotional and psychological well-being.

 

The Emotional Labor On ‘Tidying Up With Marie Kondo’ Does Not Spark Joy

Romper, January 2019

Samantha Darby highlights the inequitable division of domestic labor evident in Netflix’s Tidying Up With Marie Kondo.

How Millennials Became The Burnout Generation

BuzzFeed News, January 2019

Anne Helen Peterson describes the causes and consequences of millenial burnout.

 

What American Men Do With Their Extra Half Hour of Daily Leisure Time

The Atlantic, January 2019

Joe Pinsker discusses the gender leisure gap in the context of domestic labor.

Employers Need to Address ‘Caregiving Crisis,’ Study Finds

The Wall Street Journal, January 2019

The loss of women with advanced degrees from the workforce to take care of family could exacerbate labor shortages, Harvard report says.

 

The Special Misogyny Reserved for Mothers

New York Times, December 2018

There’s a “special kind of misogyny reserved for mothers,” according to author and podcaster Hillary Frank, and it impacts everything from work to health.

3 Ways to Gain Perspective During Conflict

Psychology Today, December 2018

Social-personality psychologist Amie M. Gordon details three tips that psychological research has shown can gain perspective during relationship conflict.

 

Husbands Are a Liability, According to Movies in 2018

Vulture, December 2018

According to Hunter Harris, the cinematic evidence of 2018 seems overwhelmingly in favor of never having a husband.

Stay-at-Home-Mom Depression Is Real—and Women Are Finally Talking About It

Glamour, December 2018

Talking about the mental health challenges that come along with raising children as a full-time job is long overdue—and it's the rallying cry many moms need.

 

Researchers found one way that long-term marriages get happier

Quartz, December 2018

It turns out that a long, happy marriage resembles a slow-moving rom-com, one that plays out over decades.

Does ‘Having It All’ Mean Doing It All? Does ‘Having It All’ Mean Doing It All?

The New York Times, December 2018

Plenty of new research underscores the reality that women are still shouldering, and expected to shoulder, much of the work associated with the home.

 

The “Woke” Men Who Still Want Housewives

Medium, December 2018

According to Jessica Valenti, men who claim to believe in equality often aren’t willing to live it.

Motherly, December 2018

Anneliese Lawton writes an evocative poem about the invisbility of mothers.

 

The Atlantic, November 2018

A new study suggests that the gender wage gap is much wider than previously thought.

Glamour, November 2018

As apart of Glamour.com’s weeklong series on modern divorce, Lyz Lenz writes about her desire to be unencumbered.

 

Washington Post, November 2018

Advice columnist Carolyn Hax responds to a question regarding the division of childcare tasks.

The New York Times, November 2018

Between domestic duties and emotional labor, research shows, women are more stressed than men are — but it doesn’t have to be that way.

 

How Our Careers Affect Our Children

Harvard Business Review, November 2018

Stewart Friedman discusses research on the impact of parental employment on children and what parents can do about it.

The Lily, November 2018

Artist and illustrator Katie Wheeler depicts the gender biases towards mothers and fathers.

 

The New York Times, November 2018

The Fawcett Society, a group that campaigns for gender equality and women’s rights, set Nov. 10 as the date in Britain when women begin working effectively “for free” when compared to men, based on the disparity in pay annually.

NBC News, November 2018

Writer Maddie Eisenhart and her husband Michael learned how to share the burden of domestic responsibilities and it has improved their relationship.

 

Quartz, November 2018

Quartz curated 50 industry-leading men to explore their thoughts on masculinity, feminism, and sexism.

National Public Radio, November 2018

A Japanese medical school that admitted to systematically rigging its entrance exams to prevent eligible women from enrolling announced it would retroactively admit 67 who had recently been denied their rightful spots.

 

The Sydney Morning Herald, October 2018

The Sydney Morning Herald published an edited extract from Fed Up by Gemma Hartley, who yearned to be relieved from her emotional labour.

Medium, October 2018

According to Jessica Valenti, the one piece of advice young women need is this: don’t marry someone who won’t take your career as seriously as their own.

 

The New York Times, October 2018

Through her writing at Hallmark, Melvina Young tries to reach people on a direct, emotional level.

The Washington Post, October 2018

Sara Petersen writes about the harmful gendered messages in seemingly innocuous children’s books.

 

Daily Mail, October 2018

New report of 2,000 working parents reveals that parents complete around 43 tasks before reaching the office.

Vox, October 2018

Any academic boost from preschool fades out after a few years; surprisingly, it still has lifelong effects.

 

HuffPost, October 2018

Ex-wives share their marriage regrets and what they've learned about love in the process.

Op-Med, October 2018

For women in medicine, setting limits and asserting boundaries is about saying this is what works for me, and this is what doesn’t, according psychiatrist Pooja Lakshmin.

 

The New York Times, October 2018

Jo Piazza says training your husband to become a dad requires two things that didn’t come naturally to her: acting helpless and asking for help.

The New York Times, October 2018

According to new figures, unpaid domestic labor such as cooking, cleaning, laundry and child care is worth more than the combined output of Britain’s retail and manufacturing companies.

 

Ms. X Factor, October 2018

For family caregivers, everything is fine until it isn’t.

Psychology Today, September 2018

Recent research explores mothers' guilt about the impact of a career on kids.

 

Medium, September 2018

We interviewed 13 working moms. Their responses reveal a pattern of invisible sacrifices.

The New York Times, September 2018

This year, with a record number of women running for office and a surge of energy among female voters, candidates are pushing back on that bias, arguing that motherhood not only doesn’t disqualify them, it makes them more qualified.

 

Wired, September 2018

Data scientist Eliza Khuner opens up about her experience as a working mother at Facebook.

Fatherly, September 2018

Even when women work, they shoulder the largest share of unpaid household work. In an attempt to see what that feels like, I only succeeded in leveling the playing field.

 

Fatherly, September 2018

Like many mothers, Liza Monroy is tired of carrying the “mental load” of domestic labor

Dallas News, September 2018

A Plano physician is under fire for a hot take in the Dallas Medical Journal saying his female colleagues are paid less because they don't work as hard — but the doctor says his comments were misconstrued and that he did not know they would be made public.

 

The Washington Post, August 2018

Gubernatorial candidate Cynthia Nixon, seen at a New York rally on August 16, reopened a debate by requesting a warmer temperature in a debate hall. But there’s a larger issue here.

Quartz, August 2018

According to Ephrat Livni, empowerment advice may be good insofar as it gives us hope, but it fails to recognize larger, much more powerful forces at work, like a long history of discrimination and patriarchy.

 

ScienceAlert, August 2018

A new study has demonstrated that a bunch of the important brain processes known as 'executive functions' aren't affected by someone's sex or gender, as it has been argued before

The New York Times, August 2018

New economic research suggests that the attitudes toward a woman when she is born have a lasting impact on how much she works, and earns, as an adult.

 

The New York Times, August 2018

College-educated women in particular underestimate the demands of parenthood and the difficulties of combining working and parenting, new research shows.

Harvard Business Review, August 2018

Research shows that money matters in couples’ careers, but not in the ways we think.

 

The New York Times, August 2018

They also earn less allowance, suggesting that the gender inequality in pay begins at home, and early in life. But there are signs the gap is narrowing

CNN, August 2018

At a time in the industry when women are still fighting for an equal number of seats at the writers' room table, the additional obstacles facing those who choose to be mothers are only making it harder for women as a whole to tell their stories on screen.

 

ScienceAlert, July 2018

With what is increasingly referred to today as "mindfulness" being a much desired quality for many people, it's not surprising crafts are being sought out for their mental and even physical benefits.

The New York Times, July 2018

Women are being harassed and even arrested for making perfectly rational parenting decisions.

 

The New York Times, July 2018

It can be disorienting to feel you’re back at square one with a person you already have a shared history with. Here’s some help.

The New York Times, July 2018

A new study published in the Harvard Business Review found that women are more likely to volunteer for what it is called “nonpromotable tasks” at the office.

 

HBS Working Knowledge, July 2018

In earlier research, Kathleen McGinn and colleagues discovered that adult kids of working moms are high achievers at work. Now it turns out they are happy, too.

The New Yorker, July 2018

When Carrie Gracie discovered that her salary was lower than that of her male peers, she blamed herself. But wage disparities are a social problem with far-reaching effects.

 

Popsugar, July 2018

Jenny Mollen speaks out about parenting double standards.

The New York Times, July 2018

Nikki Columbus says that MoMA PS1 rescinded its offer of employment as a curator after learning that she had just had a baby.

 

Forbes, June 2018

Avivah Wittenberg-Cox urges companies to rethink what work flexibility means for men and women.

Slate, June 2018

Research suggests fatherhood only benefits men when they are fully engaged in the work of parenting.

 

The New York Times, June 2018

Many pregnant women have been systematically sidelined in the workplace, according to Natalie Kitroeff and Jessica Silver-Greenberg.

Refinery29, June 2018

Sara Mauskopf writes about the importance of paternal involvement for gender equality in the workplace.

 

The Cut, June 2018

Polly answers a reader’s question about why new mothers harbor contempt for their husbands.

APost, June 2018

Married women have a lot on their plate, especially when there are kids involved. 

 

HuffPost , May 2018

In the U.S., women are essentially punished for having kids.

Bustle, May 2018

Women like Colleen Briggs are real-life examples of individuals who have been able to merge their passions with their work life — inspiring others to find careers that both excite and fulfill them.

 

The Cut, May 2018

Erin Zimmerman writes about her experience of matrescence: the transition to motherhood.

The New York Times, May 2018

According to Michelle Goldberg, one lesson of cratering fertility rates is that in the modern world, patriarchy is maladaptive.

 

Motherly, May 2018

According to the 2018 State of Motherhood survey by Motherly, 59% of moms report being "most strongly" defined by motherhood. Among moms under 30 with young children, that bumps up to 70%.

National Public Radio, May 2018

In the division of household tasks, one study shows that washing dishes is the category with the biggest discrepancy between men and women.

 

The New York Times, May 2018

There’s widespread evidence that bias against pregnant women and mothers is a systemic problem beyond a few bad bosses.

New York Post, May 2018

Entrepreneurship makes you a better parent despite the workload, say business-owning moms.

 

Fast Company, May 2018

Two-child families are common in the U.S., but a second baby comes with financial and professional costs.

Lemonade, May 2018

In the quest for life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness, the latter has inspired a hotlydebated scene of gurus telling us how to be happy.

 

MomJunction, October 2018

MomJunction gives the top reasons for divorce and explains the legal grounds on which divorce is granted.

Her View From Home, April 2018

Jorrie Varney writes about the mental load of motherhood.

 

Working Mother, October 2018

French cartoonist Emma’s new comic—titled "Waiting"—shows how harmful gender roles can be and why working parents need to break out of them.

The New York Times, April 2018

Kimberly Harrington writes a detailed description of the responsibilities and woes of motherhood.

 

Emily Edlynn PhD, April 2018

Emily Edlynn describes the burden of being the de facto household manager.

Scary Mommy, April 2018

The LeBaron family’s Sunday karaoke session went viral.

 

The Washington Post, April 2018

Since the 17th century, self-improvement schemes have reliably been rooted in the belief that weak individual will — not social malaise or structural inequality — is at the heart of all problems, from poverty to extra pounds to sickness to sexual assault.

Vanity Fair, April 2018

Former E! host Catt Sadler helped spark a national conversation when she quit the network after learning her male co-host was making double her salary.

 

The New York Times, April 2018

Women who have their first child before 25 or after 35 eventually close the salary divide with their husbands. It’s the years in between that are most problematic, research shows.

Maclean’s, April 2018

It comes as a great surprise to many new mothers that the business of bonding with your baby coincides with a severe disconnect in other arenas of life, including your relationship with your partner.

 

NBC News, April 2018

Sweden's progressive laws mean it is arguably the best place on the planet to be a new dad.

Marie Claire, April 2018

New research shows men and women have distinct preferences when it comes to household labor—and that can impact relationship happiness.

 

Good, March 2018

An open letter by Celeste Yvonne shows overwhelmed mothers how to ask for support.

Daily Mail, March 2018

A frazzled mother has struck a chord with fellow parents by writing an open letter to her husband, asking for more help as they navigate the care of their two young children.

 

The New York Times, March 2018

The working world is unfair to many women, yet even when they succeed, they must confront another series of challenges.

Vogue, March 2018

The fifth decade is an inflection point for women who want to bear children, as discussed in Sheila Heti book: from Motherhood: A Novel.

 

Providr, March 2018

Multiple surveys and studies converge to find that mothers experience high levels of stress, particularly from their partners.

The Washington Post, March 2018

Jimmy Kimmel, a late-night host and the writer’s husband, has taken to making increasingly complicated pancake designs.

 

Quartz at Work, February 2018

Liberian activist Leymah Gbowee won the Nobel Peace Prize in 2011 after turning a grassroots women’s movement into the force that ended her country’s civil war and eventually led to the election of Ellen Johnson Sirleaf, the first female president on the African continent.

Being a Two-Career Couple Requires a Long-Term Plan

Harvard Business Review, February 2018

Avivah Wittenberg-Cox catalogs some of the career models dual income couples use to define, negotiate and enjoy.

 

Harvard Business Review, February 2018

Reentering the workforce after taking a leave of absence can be difficult, but is it harder for workers who lost their jobs and have been unemployed or workers who took time away to care for children?

The New York Times, February 2018

Though understood and promoted as an instrument of liberation, convenience has a dark side.

 

Forbes, February 2018

Gender equality cannot be realized in the workplace and in society if couples don’t invest more time in synergizing their roles and resolving conflict at home, according to

Forbes, February 2018

Women can never lead truly qualitative, productive lives until we've learned to prioritize and delegate, according to Dee Poku Spalding.

 

The New York Times, February 2018

A satirical article details how one woman solved the gender labor imbalance in her marriage.

The New York Times, February 2018

Motherhood is the biggest cause of the gender pay gap. It might take fathers to change that.